A couple of weekends ago I was privileged to share group supervision with my colleagues from my bioenergetic training group, and International Trainer Louise Frechette. I had some thoughts prior to this weekend, and a lot of thoughts since then. I’ll share more of the reflections later but for right now, I want to share a list of things that I learned through my personal therapy and my training. Those two things are profoundly intertwined. Bioenergetic training is predicated on doing your own work, for as many years as it takes, and so a lot happens while training.
Anyway, more about that later. Right now, here are…..Ten Things I Learned In Training to be a Bioenergetic Therapist:
- It is okay to make a mistake.
- It is okay to say “I made a mistake.” Self-deprecation (“Oh, that was dumb…”) does nothing for me or for anyone else.
- If god is watching me making my mistakes, she is certainly cheering me on rather than criticizing me.
- I don’t have to know everything.
- I do know something.
- When I can’t remember that I do know something, I can look again at the body. The body will remind me of what I know.
- Some defenses are useful but only if you know when you are using them, and why.
- There is no point in hiding anything because whatever you are hiding is sitting right out there in the open in your body and your behaviour. Who I am, who anyone is, is not a secret. Except sometimes from oneself. And then, I just have to open up to the possibility that I am deluding myself.
- I don’t have to do it alone. In fact, I don’t have to do ANYTHING alone. I can ask for help, and I can wait until support is available. Things that are hard, overwhelming, and are too much for me can be challenging, stimulating, and enriching if the time is right, the resources are available, and I have support.
- I am just as okay as each of the people who come into my office. I am just as okay as each of the people who have come into my life. I am just as okay as my bioenergetic colleagues and my sister trainees. It is okay to be who I am, and I can extend that welcome to others.
Imagine living life as if you are okay. As if life is okay. How about that?