No, no way. I’m not doing THAT. No how, no way am I going to look at THAT issue. Nope. You can’t make me. But our issues have a way of wearing us down, wearing us out, as long as we resist them. What could happen if we just stopped resisting?
I remember reading something years ago that struck a chord with me. It was a statement that we most resist that which we most need to look at. I have tried to keep that in mind as I move through my life, and take notice of those things that I avoid doing, or that I procrastinate on, or that I “hate” or that I try to palm off on other people. Those things are the things that I really need to look at.
How to do, it, though, when resistance is peaking? Usually resistance is just felt as “I don’t want to…” and often you can feel it in your body as well. Try it: think of some conversation you don’t want to have, or some issue in your life that you don’t want to deal with, and say “I don’t want to…” and notice what your body does. Perhaps you find tightness in your jaw. Maybe your upper body pulls back. Maybe you find your breath getting more shallow. Whatever your response is, notice how your body mirrors your thought of resistance.
Sometimes just noticing is enough and we can soften and move through the resistance and do what needs to be done. But sometimes it works better to actually go INTO the resistance and act it out. If your body wants to pull back, then really pull back. If you find yourself making fists, well, then, use them to hit a pillow or shake them…saying, with emphasis, “I don’t want to!” Or lie down on your mattress and kick your legs, using your whole leg and shouting, “I don’t want to do that! I won’t! I won’t!”
Can you imagine being able to do that? Maybe you can go and try it (or maybe just try it out in your mind, first) and then let us know what you find out.